I'm 30 years old. I've been in relation with a girl for 5 years. I belong
to SC caste while my girlfriend belongs to Kamma (Chowdary) caste. We are both
working and self-dependent. Our relationship had been fun and happy before we
shared this with our families.
My family did not accept the idea of inter caste marriage at all in the
beginning. My father repeatedly told me not to think of marrying in other caste
as it would become very difficult to cope up with life in future. Even after
his repeated advises, I did not drop the idea so he agreed to my relationship
and told me to marry her and be happy.
When my girlfriend told about our relationship to her mother (her father
has left their family for another woman), she did not accept at all. She made
comments like "we used to take bath when we accidentally see those caste
people", "we will neither accept them, stay with them or even talk to
them" etc. My girlfriend also said that her mother threatened to commit
suicide if she ever marry me.
This happened three years ago. Since then we've been stalling our
marriage. For the past three years I've been getting too much of pressure from
my parents to get married as they are facing pressure from society. They are
okay with my girlfriend as well but they want me to get married as soon as
possible instead of staying as a bachelor. Since then, I've been asking my
girlfriend about marriage and she kept stalling me saying that her mother
should accept me and only then she will marry me.
It's been three years that this has been going on. In the meanwhile, my
parents and family got frustrated with my situation and once or twice even
abused my girlfriend verbally over phone for being in relation with me but not
marrying me. Now my girlfriend really developed hatred towards my parents and
family for abusing her verbally. My father kept insisting on me to get married
as am not getting any younger by time and his friends and well-wishers keep on asking
about my marriage every time they see him.
This time, I could not stall my father anymore so I've insisted on my
girlfriend to get married together. Now my girlfriend says she will marry me
but I should leave my parents and family after marriage and not involve with
them in anyway. She even said that she can't even look at my parents or family
for them verbally abusing her over phone once upon a time. My girlfriend is
very adamant and is not getting convinced in anyway.
For the past six years, I've only imagined her to be my wife and we are
very intimate together. What should I do? Should I accept my girlfriend's
demand and marry her?
